Sunday, October 14, 2007
9:13 AM

The Wedding..

Yesterday was Danny's wedding. Finally, THE MAN is getting married. HAHA! Well, I first got to know Danny when he came and took over the management of Youth Fellowship as our Youth Director. Back then, YF was very much different from the way it is today. He came, he saw, and he changed lotsa things. He believed and chose to see the potential in the youths, and paved a way for the development of their talents and abilities. Constantly pushing us to grow and live for God and serve Him, he has impacted many, if not all, of the people in YF. Personally, he's the man that I have come to respect, and look up to as role model and a fatherly figure. I remember a time when sinning against God brought me to feel that I've let even Danny down so much, that I really wanted his forgiveness, even though if I did not say a word he'll never have found out a thing. It's amazing how God has blessed him so much, and caused him to be a blessing to all of us.

Pastor Tiak mentioned something at the wedding ceremony yesterday which really caught my attention. He mentioned something about marriage, a crucial aspect of it. He said that in a marriage, a couple has to have enough common ground for them to be connected, yet differences (and even squabbles) to make it exciting. He was emphasising the point about complimenting each other and not conforming to the other. He was saying to Hui Ping to submit to her husband as the Bible commanded, but not submerge into him. And I think what he said was very important. In relationships, the girl tends to make the other half her everything. This results in her giving up of her social circles and her friends. And I think this is not healthy at all. By making him everything, and giving up on the other things, it's like giving up on her own self identity and trying to become one and identical to him. This will cause the guy to lose interest in her because it was her unique personality and identity that first attracted him!

I think I did not manage to fully and properly convey what Pastor Tiak said. But do ponder about it. It is indeed our uniqueness as a person that first attracted the other. If we were to conform and change to suit the others' expectations, then we would lose our own identity, thus losing our attractiveness. Maybe that's why many relationships keep failing nowadays. That's why they say youths are not mature enough to handle relationships, because they never thought about it this way before.

Haha.. I know some people will get offended when they read this.. Touchy touchy topic.. Oh wells, as always, I don't really care.. =p